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Stop Chasing the Unicorn: Developing Real and Lasting Relationships with Grantmakers

This post originally appeared on GPA's (Grant Professionals Association) blog.

Long, long ago, in a galaxy far, far away…AKA my first three to four years as a grant professional, I would cower behind my desk, pushing others such as my supervisor, board members, executive directors, ANYONE else, to get out there and connect with foundations. And in many cases, that board member to trustee connection, or that Executive Director to Executive Director coffee were excellent ways to foster meaningful connection between grant makers and grant seekers.

I held back because, as a grade A introvert, I was afraid of saying the wrong thing, being too pushy, being asked a question I couldn't answer, or being ignored and/or ridiculed. In other words, because I didn't know how to conduct the perfect donor interaction, I didn't try at all. I thought there was some sparkly unicorn of a speech or email that I had to perform to be worthy. In the meantime, I plugged away striving to create compelling, successful grants on deadline, and told myself it was enough.

As I gained more experience, I realized certain career paths like senior writer, or development director could be mine. But they required more interaction with donors, employees, board members, and volunteers.  Actively participating in the Georgia chapter of the GPA was key to developing more self confidence. One of the first major projects I took on was to recruit foundation program officers and other speakers for an extended Meet the Funders Panel about 10 years ago.
Calling these foundation staffers on behalf of GGPA made it much less threatening. I wasn't calling to ask for another grant or to discuss future funding possibilities—it was a professional development opportunity for me AND for those who participated. The panel's success inspired me to help coordinate and moderate four more panels at regional grants conferences and other events. And in the process, I developed authentic professional relationships with several program officers and board members from family foundations, bank-managed foundations, and others.
When I stopped sweating it about developing the perfect script for a phone call, or creating a flawless email extolling all the wonderful selling points of funding my employer's nonprofit, I found that making short, more frequent contact seemed to work for them and for me.
Full disclosure: sometimes I would leave messages between 6-7 p.m. so that program officers would hear from me, but also so I wouldn't have to actually talk “live.”  #introvertlife. This worked best for thanking foundation officers, board members and staff, and to alert them to a forthcoming email with details about an invitation.
Another best practice for grant development also conveniently served as another way for me to interact more comfortably with foundation staff—the (often-dreaded) technical trainings offered by funders at the launch of each new grant cycle. Whether on site or through a webinar, technical assistance trainings gave me a chance to interact in the moment, and more importantly, in the days afterwards. Reasonable, well-timed emails during a long and complex grant cycle and beyond helped so much to create an atmosphere of connection. This helped me overcome that “us versus them” feeling for many, but unfortunately not all, foundations.
Instead of chasing the elusive unicorn of perfection in donor relations, l learned to be myself, communicate authentically, and let the working relationships develop naturally with those grant makers open to the experience. This helped me personally and professionally in my career growth and in my personal confidence to take on new things.
What has worked for you in establishing and maintaining strong ties with your foundation funders?

Kimberly Hays de Muga, GPC, cohosts the Fundraising HayDay podcast, is a national trainer in grant writing and grant management and a Senior Consultant with Encore Nonprofit Solutions.  When she's not working with nonprofits and those who love them, she writes Young Adult fiction and indulges her tea snobbery.

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Kimberly Hays de Muga is the cohost of the Fundraising HayDay podcast, successful grant writer, fundraiser, and national speaker and trainer. She has more than 22 years of fundraising and grantseeking experience focused on health and human service nonprofits, from hospitals to food banks to programs supporting children and adults with developmental disabilities. Her passion is coaching and training nonprofits and funders toward successful fundraising that better serves their communities. Kimberly is co-author of "Preparing for the GPC Exam: Earn Your Grant Professional Certified Credential," and is a Board Member of the Grant Professionals Association. She also writes young adult fiction and drinks lots of tea.

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